The OARS Model in Mindfulness: A Gentle Framework for Daily Presence

The OARS Model in Mindfulness: A Gentle Framework for Daily Presence In psychotherapy, I often help clients cultivate a kinder, more grounded relationship with themselves. Mindfulness practices support this beautifully, but many people struggle to understand how to bring mindfulness into everyday life. The OARS model (Open Yourself, Arrive, Return, Strengthening) offers a simple and […]

Shame and the Gay Experience: How Shame Shapes Identity, Sexuality and Healing​

Shame and the Gay Experience: How Shame Shapes Identity, Sexuality and Healing Shame is a universal human emotion, but for many gay men it becomes an invisible companion. Subtle, persistent and deeply woven into the way they see themselves and relate to others. As a queer sex therapist myself, I often meet gay men who […]

Why Pride Parades Are More Needed Than Ever

Why Pride Parades Are More Needed Than Ever Each year, Pride parades fill our streets with color, resistance, and joy. What began as a protest in 1969 continues to evolve, but one thing has never changed: Pride is necessary. And in today’s world, where queer rights are being challenged on multiple fronts, Pride isn’t just […]

P*dophilia: Sexual responsiveness to the child’s body schema.​

P*dophilia: Sexual responsiveness to the child’s body schema. In sexual therapy practice, we encounter a variety of different concerns, some of which are particularly difficult to name. One of these sensitive issues is sexual responsiveness to children’s body schemas (also known as p*dophilia) – a topic that is associated with great shame, fear and insecurity […]

Which Therapist Is Right for Me? Why the Therapeutic Relationship Matters More Than the Method

Which Therapist Is Right for Me? Why the Therapeutic Relationship Matters More Than the Method Deciding to begin therapy is a big and courageous step. But very soon, the next important question arises: „Which therapist is actually the right fit for me?“ With so many therapeutic approaches – cognitive behavioral therapy, psychodynamic therapy, person-centered therapy […]

Culturally Sensitive Psychotherapy: Support for Asian Clients​

Culturally Sensitive Psychotherapy: Support for Asian Clients Are you looking for a therapist who understands your cultural background and values? As a culturally sensitive therapist, I offer a supportive space where you can explore your thoughts and emotions in a way that aligns with your experiences. Why Choose Culturally Sensitive Therapy? Asian cultures often emphasize […]

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes: A Counselor’s Perspective​

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes: A Counselor’s Perspective As a counselor, I often witness the profound impact of focus and attention on mental well-being. One of the most insightful quotes that encapsulates this is: “Energy flows where attention goes.” This simple yet powerful statement underscores a fundamental truth about human psychology—what we choose to focus […]

Understanding ADHD Paralysis: Why It Happens and How to Overcome It

Understanding ADHD Paralysis: Why It Happens and How to Overcome It ADHD paralysis is a frustrating and often overwhelming experience for individuals with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). It occurs when a person feels stuck, unable to initiate tasks or make decisions, even when they recognize the importance of the task at hand. This mental […]

Negative Sentiment Override in Relationships

Negative Sentiment Override in Relationships As a couples counselor, I’ve seen firsthand how unresolved conflicts can deeply impact relationships. One of the key concepts in understanding relational distress is Dr. John Gottman’s theory of „Negative Sentiment Override“ (NSO). Negative Sentiment Override occurs when one or both partners in a relationship develop a pervasive negative perspective […]

Understanding „Rupture and Repair“ in Relationships: A Guide for Couples

Understanding „Rupture and Repair“ in Relationships: A Guide for Couples In my work as a therapist specializing in couples therapy, the concept of „rupture and repair“ is a fundamental framework that I frequently explore with my clients. At its core, it describes the inevitable moments of conflict or disconnection in relationships and the essential process […]